Let That Hurt Go!

 

Relationships are like glass.

Sometimes it’s better to leave the pieces broken on the floor, than to hurt yourself trying to put it back together.

Relationships are a constant battle between the heart and the mind. Logic and emotion. The balance between the two, so delicate, but so essential to success. Scientifically, we are programmed to need touch, comfort and warmth as bad as much as water or food.

But what happens we that natural need for companionship blinds us from the turmoil and potential heartbreak we are up against…

Knowing when to let go is an essential part of growth, its arguably one of the hardest parts. From my personal experience, letting go is a process, but with a few key points, it is manageable.

1.   Take time

Often times, we let external forces dictate when we should be over something, but no one knows you better than you. Take the time you feel is necessary; the healing process has no time limit.

2.   Block communication until YOU are ready

The age-old saying comes into play with this one. Sometimes out of site, out of mind is the best way to move on from things. As humans, we a traditionally creatures of habit; and this innate desire of consistency and comfortability is a major reason why letting go is so hard for us. So sometimes the best course of action is to just separate yourself from the trigger.

3.   Fill the void developing a self-improving hobby

And to piggy-back off #2, working on yourself can be there best form of distraction there is! Relationships often distract us from ourselves because we are so focused on making a partnership work that you fail to realize you need to first be a good partner. Take this time of separation to work on your physical, spiritual or mental well-being. Read a good book, get active, or even unclutter and organize your space.