The best relationships happen organically
Let it be!
We often believe that being single means something is wrong with us or we’re missing something in our lives, and for that, we look for the “missing piece” within others. This is a sense of our lack of self-worth, which hinders us from creating organic relationships with people.
Relationships that grow organically through genuine, authentic friendships. As time progresses, your vulnerability and your willingness to be open to one another increases. We tend to push away the love we need because it didn’t match the love we wanted. These type of expectations block us from experiences that could open us up to a deeper more expansive love.
Here are some ways to grow organic relationships:
Don’t connect with others with the intention of a relationship
Simple connect with people through the intention of relating. This will throw all the expectations and pre-judgments out the window of your ideal potential partner. This lets the other person feel like they can be more open to you. There are people in this world that you might be able to relate to or
2. Don't get too caught up on the physical attraction
Yes, sex is important and plays a big role in a relationship, but think about it, in your past relationships, if you took sex out of it, what really do some of them have to offer or what foundation was built on that relationship other than sex? Of course for many, physical attraction and good sex is needed, but you have to be able to connect with them spiritually, mentally, and emotionally… all aspects of life. Once you have that, a physical bond can grow as time progresses.
3. Stop thinking too far into the future, don’t expect too much!
It’s okay to think about the future, wanting to grow with someone, and what you want out of life! Try to hope more, but expect less. I’m sure you’ve heard people say, “expectations lead to disappointments.” Well… they’re right! Expect less, it’ll help you in the long run. Realize that people don’t think the same way you do, so just because you want this and that or you do certain things for people, doesn’t mean you can expect them to think or reciprocate the same.